If you know me, or have been following me for a while, you will have seen that my husband and I have moved around a little over the past year or so. Turns out we just can’t decide between the Cotswolds and London!
We met in Cheltenham after dinner with mutual friends, and being the only vegetarians we bonded over a steamy mushroom and asparagus pie – hard to imagine anything more romantic, I know. Since then it has been a whirlwind of dating, marriage, new jobs, house renovations and relocations. We have gone from pies in the Cotswolds to brunching in London, back to Cheltenham and now here we are, back in London.
As we have just left the last days of 2017, I wanted to share with you just a couple of things that I have learnt over the past year:
- Follow your gut. I am a firm believer in gut instinct, and it is something which so far has led me on such an adventure. It may not always make head-sense, but if you can’t shift that niggly feeling, then why not follow that feeling and see where it leads.
- There is always a ‘Plan B’. This is something which my husband has instilled in me, mostly amid panic that we are making the wrong decision about something. If you have listened to my first point, then be rest assured that even if it goes wrong, there will always be a plan B. Nothing is irreversible and there is a reason for everything. You will be surprised which doors may open because of something that thing, at the time, you thought was a crazy idea.
- No Regrets. Life is too short! There is nothing you can do about the past, so there is no point stressing about it. Just move on to the next thing 🙂
- Family are family, and friends are family. Having left home straight after A Levels for a gap year, university and then getting married, I don’t get to spend as much time with my family as a lot of other people. I learnt quickly that friends are the family you choose and they are people who you can lean on for support or just a good chit chat.
- The work-life balance. I put a lot of pressure on myself to be a good employee and always try to go the extra mile. However, although I personally think that isn’t a bad quality, I have learnt to set strict parameters for this. For instance, responding to emails in the evening may make my day easier the next day, doing it all the time means that separating work and home life can be blurred. I have learnt that going too far for the extra mile can mean things are piled on me as I am typically a ‘yes’ person. Help people where you have the capacity too, but don’t take on so much that you can’t get the rest bite you need at home. After all, unless you are getting a pay rise or promotion as a result, there is little for you to gain from extra stress!
So those are my top 5, and I hope they are useful to you. Why not have a think about your top 5 life lessons this year, write them down and see if next year you have implemented what you learnt in 2017?
I look forward to hearing how you get on!